
Babe and I have been blessed in so many ways. I fully believe it and am so grateful for those blessings. I want to make that very clear before I put it all out there and say the last three years have easily been the hardest three years of my life. We can definitely be blessed and endure trials at the same time. Time after time, over the past few years, I kept telling Babe that God REALLY must love us because he prunes those He loves. There were days that I felt like we had been cut back to the ground and Spring was a long time away.
Moving was hard, but certainly not the worst of it. Babe's job was very stressful. Moving, Bear Stearns collapse, new job with JP Morgan and a lot of other factors left me wondering if it was possible for Babe to have a bad day for one, two, then three years straight? There were days that the end was nowhere in site and I had no idea how to support him any further. I came from the medical world and helping in the world of finance is certainly not my forte.
Then, there was me. My health has been on a downward spiral since we found out we were moving in 2007. I am certain the stress of moving brought about a lot of it, but new issues just kept croppng up and still do. I feel like a major financial drain for all the medical bills. Babe would never say that...ever. But I pay the bills. I know it.
In the middle of all the craziness, we had our precious WHS. He has been a champion child...easy, stress-free, fun, good sleeper, great baby. Having three boys has been an absolute blast. However, my poor health coupled with the fatigue of a new baby and 2 toots added to the daily stress. Babe has definitely pulled more weight than he should have many times over. It has been hard, but he has been amazing thru multiple hospital stays and bad health days. Quite gratefully, his work was just as understanding and great in accommodating his schedule to help me and the boys at home when I wasn't well.
I carry a lot of guilt for being ill and being an inconvenience to my entire family. I know they all love us and want to help, but being a mom, I don't want my kids to hear that I am sick. And, I certainly want to be able do it on my own. That is very hard.
I am here to tell you that, after all that deppressing narative, we can see the light at the end of the tunnel! Praise the Lord! I am certain Job suffered more, but I have looked to the book of Job many times in the last years for encouragement. It has been a long winter, but God is faithful and has grown us in ways we never knew possible. We are certainly stronger for the trials. Around the time that I got so sick last year, Babe eliminated a couple big sources of stress from his job. The change in him was remarkable as things started looking up at work. While I am still fighting to have good health, we have learned SO much about my health and being healthy that we never would have discovered in Oklahoma. We have a plan...a good one, for improving my health. I have 100% support from Babe and my family, but to eat the way I need to eat, I need supernatural intervention. I do choose to be a mom and to be healthy for my family. They need me. I can do this!
In celebration of all these turned corners on top of so many others, Babe and I decided three weeks ago to go on vacation...alone. We have not been alone, apart from a few dinners here and there, in five years. All our plans worked out perfectly for our boys to stay with Grammy and Big Daddy at the lake with the cousins and we booked our flights to Antigua! As we flew across international waters, I watched as Babe relaxed and left his worries behind. We arrived at our resort and I waited to hear, "De plane! De plane!" as I was certain we had arrived on Fantasy Island. It was heavenly. The week was heavenly, relaxing, fun, refreshing...exactly what we needed to conquer some more world!
We returned home refreshed and excited to reclaim our kiddos and our life. We still have stresses and health issues, but we have renewed strength to endure. The Sampler family is back in the game!
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